As the birth of baby #2 draws nearer, the husband and I have a sizable decision to make regarding his baptism/dedication. The question isn’t whether or not to do it, but who would be the best Godparents for the job. To be clear, the reason that this is an important decision is that the husband and I both feel that the role of a Godparent is important so that, ideally, our child can have a consistent non-parental “spiritual example” through the course of their lives.

Now, before I outline the choices you need to understand that our church does not require that Godparents or sponsors be assigned to the baby. It is strictly optional to the parents of the baby being baptized/dedicated. That said, here are the our overall choices and the pros and cons of each.

Option 1 – No Godparents
To be honest, I struggle with this even being an option on the table. However, since it is an option that’s available, I’m listing it here. Though I struggle with this one in particular, I see the value in having a church-wide spiritual support of the child rather than naming a select couple of people as “primary, non-parental spiritual supporters”. The big downside to this option is that it’s probably the least acceptable to family (and if I’m honest, to myself) due to tradition.

Option 2 – Godparents that are married, but not to each other
In this option, we would select one half of each of two married couples to be Godparents. This sounds like an awkward arrangement, but in effect makes it possible to add two more spiritual mentors to the mix (for a total of four) by assuming that spouses of the named Godparents would also have a significant role in the child’s spiritual development. Also, this would give the kiddo additional views of what caring adult relationships (aside from his mom and dad’s) look like. The potential downfall to this option would be hurt feelings on the part of the couple halves who aren’t selected as “named” Godparents.

Option 3 – Married couple Godparents, single set
This option would have a single married couple named as Godparents. The pros to this option are essentially the same as in Option 2 except with the added benefit of not having the potential for hard feelings on the part of the previously unnamed spouse. The cons are that it would be that much harder to select the Godparents.

So, as you can see we have some big decisions to make. If anyone has any thoughts on this, please feel free to share in the comments box… I’ll take any help I can get! Also, remember that Anonymous comments are always accepted.


~ by pe2nia1 on May 16, 2010.

3 Responses to “>Dilemma”

  1. >Our son has 4 godparents. My sister, my wife's sister, our good friend, and my uncle. When we considered the choice, it made sense for us to do it this way. We wanted to make sure that he would be well taken care of, especially spiritually. All are good Christian people who will ensure he will have a positive spiritual upbringing.

  2. >You chose option 2 for Alex and there were no hurt feelings on my part. And it's great that he has essentially 4 spiritual mentors (other than his parents) as compared to just 2. I'll be interested in seeing what you choose to do with little boy #2. Good luck in your decision!

  3. >I like option 2. hopefully those not specifically chosen would not be hurt by that and still enjoy being apart of the 'team' that can spiritually influence/set an example for your son. Good luck in your decision and hope everything is going well.

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